Ejaculation Trainer Last Longer In Bed

Orgasm during sleep, else known as nocturnal emission or wet dream is a kind of sexual response seen in men. Excess of semen in body and presence of erotic thoughts before going to bed are some of the main causes for the formation of orgasms during sleep. A number of physical and psychological factors play key roles in the formation of orgasms during sleep. If no treatment is provided in earlier stages of this disorder, it may even lead to the condition of infertility. Excessive orgasms during sleep cause physical and mental weakness. Memory problems, dizziness, joint pains and insomnia are some of the risk factors of orgasms during sleep. Today, lots of health supplements are easily available in market for curing orgasms. Let's see how to stop orgasms during sleep?

Intake of NF cure capsule is a best recommended medicine to stop orgasms during sleep. It is a composition of ingredients with cooling, aromatic and anti-aging activity. Some of the key ingredients included for the preparation of NF cure capsules include mucuna prurient, asphaltum punjabinum, ferrum, piper longum, saffron and asparagus racemosus. Usage of NF cure capsules as per the guidance of physician helps in stopping orgasms during sleep. It is a powerful aphrodisiac and boosts your energy levels. Curing erectile dysfunction, alleviating joint pains and curing premature interjection are other benefits of taking NF cure capsules.

Intake of milk added with drumstick flowers is one of the best suggested cures for stopping orgasms during sleep. You can easily make a medicinal soup by adding 15 gms of drumstick flowers in 250 ml of milk. To sweeten the mixture, you can also add honey to the soup. Intake of this herbal health tonic helps in enhancing energy and improving immune system. It is one among effective remedies for the treatment of impotency. Intake of raisins along with milk is another natural way to stop orgasms during sleep. You can easily prepare health supplement from raisins by boiling some black raisins in milk. Inclusion of more concentration of chopped carrot and white onion is another natural remedy to stop orgasms during sleep.

Intake of extracts of mucuna prurient is a commonly suggested herbal cure to stop orgasm during sleep. Mucuna prurient, best known as momordica charantia or velvet bean is an effective herbal medicine for improving the health and stamina of your body. It has been used for centuries in the preparation of vivid ayurvedic Indian medicines. Today, the herb medicinal products made from mucuna prurient are commonly available in market in the form of dried leaves, tea powders and as extracts. Inclusion of more concentration of dried dates and almonds in diet is another simple technique to stop orgasms during sleep. Patients with orgasms during sleep are also advised to take a bath in relaxant oil added water. Chamomile oil and lavender oil are some of the examples of relaxant oils used for calming down nerve cells. Inclusion of garlic and ginger in food items are other recommended cures to stop orgasms during sleep.

Frequently Asked Questions

QUESTION:
Stopping Premature Ejaculation?
When my Husband and I have sex he orgasms within the first 2 minutes. It doesn't really bother me but he hates it and wants to last longer. Any ideals or tips. Does any other guys have this problem?
- ANSWER:
  try masturbating before having intercourse. another way might be not to try and go so fast. if you feel like your going have an orgasm just stop and play around for a while. wife and I used to do it that way sometimes and it helped somewhat.
QUESTION:
What is the best way to stop premature ejaculation ?
No matter what i have tried i always ejaculate prematurally and i wish very badly to stop this or find a way to prolong my orgasm
- ANSWER:
QUESTION:
Once my PC muscles are strong enough, when do I squeeze them to stop ejaculation?
I've been practicing my PC control to stop premature ejaculation, but when I feel orgasm coming, I clench and it stops a lot of semen from coming out but I'm still done after that. Am I doing it wrong? When should I clench exactly? At what point?
- ANSWER:
  That is incorrect.
  
  You need to train yourself to recognize the signs of an impending ejaculation, and stop or slow down until the feeling passes. It's not just "climb aboard and pump away."
  
  You risk bringing on retrograde ejaculation by trying to use muscular control.
QUESTION:
Premature Female orgasm. ?
Okay so I know you hear a lot about guys that c^m too soon, sometimes when there only just too excited and haven't made contact yet...

The same thing sort of happens to me When I'm with a guy and we kiss and grind etc. and naturally get turned on, but lately I've found that I'm c^mming before he even touches me and then I'm totally done, the mood is gone!... Sorry for the gorey details..

I'm wondering what I can do to stop so I can last longer?

Thanks
- ANSWER:
  interesting... never heard of this happening.
  
  well at least you have the option of letting the guy do his thing while you just lay there or something... that isn't appealing but at least there's that option. unlike when the guy finishes too early and can't have an erection anymore.
  
  maybe you should try the same thing some guys do... masturbate earlier in the day. then when it's time to have sex, you're not quite as turned on and you are able to last longer.
QUESTION:
What techniques really work to overcome premature ejaculation and last longer in bed?
I orgasm way too quick

the start and stopping doesn't really help me either... I need to last longer non-stop so I can satisfy my girl

help?
- ANSWER:
  Ejaculation control exercises can train you to last as long as you want in bed
  
  its about controlling your arousal, not about thinking about something else
  
  you need to develop your concentration "skills" while learning and becoming confident in your ability to last as long as you want
  
  its mostly mental... take a look at this, a good guide to all this:
  
  http://www.mistermanpower.net/blog/questions-from-readers-regarding-sexual-performance-anxiety-and-how-to-increase-girth-of-penis.php
QUESTION:
what does it mean when a male have a quick orgasm during sex?
How can They stop Premature Ejaculation.....
- ANSWER:
  Several different ways. As you get older you'll last longer. But for now. Try masturbating once or twice early in the day.
  Also, just because you shoot early, dosen't mean you can't
  rest, play around and go for it again in 15 or 20 minutes. It always lasts longer the second time around.
QUESTION:
Guys, how long would it take for you to ejaculate and orgasm if you masturbate and stroke fast and nonstop?
If I masturbate and stroke my penis fats and nonstop I would ejaculate in less that 2 or 1 minute. Is this a sing of PE (premature ejaculation)? What is considered normal? What could I do?
Note: If I use the stop-and-go method I can last as long as I want.
- ANSWER:
  premature ejaculation is when you cannot hold out your orgasm long enough to satisfy your PARTNER! You cannot have PE when you masturbate.
  
  If you can control your orgasm with the start and stop method then you are fine.
  
  If i were to masturbate fast and nonstop, i would probably get off within 30 - 45 seconds. But during sex, i can last as long as i want to with simple start and stop methods and breathing techniques.
QUESTION:
how to stop premature ejaculation?
my girlfriend and I will be making out for an hour or two and it will be intense and I will cum in my pants so by the time its go time I er um dont feel up to it lol

any suggestions?

and just take off teh damn clothes off now isnt one! from what I heard it takes a lot of time and passion for a girl to orgasm and I care more for hers then mine
- ANSWER:
  I suffered from Premature Ejaculation ever since I started having sex. I could never last more than 30 seconds. It really caused me to lose alot of confidence and caused me to avoid dating for quite some time.
  
  The good news is 40% of all men suffer from Premature Ejaculation and that it can be cured with the right information. I've tried just about everything to cure my PE, creams,sprays and even pills. None worked and I thought i would NEVER solve this problem.
  
  I got lucky and found a site that taught me how to control my ejaculatory reflex and now I can last for 10 minutes. It helped me lose my fear of women and now I am happily engaged to the love of my life Below is a link to the site. Noone had PE more severe than me. It helped me so maybe it can help you to!!
  
  http://www.curepremature-ejaculation.net
QUESTION:
HELP!! HOW TO STOP PREMATURE EJACULATION?
I have been with my boyfriend for a year now but when we have sex he always ejaculates really early before I even start to feel like in coming up to orgasm. Do you have any advise that he could do or that we could do together to make him ejaculate later? Thanks x
- ANSWER:
  Premature ejaculation has three or four main causes:
  
  - Hormone imbalance
  - Weak sex muscles / inadequate blood flow to penis
  - Anxiety / stress / worry
  - Hyper-sensitive penis
  
  You may have all of them evenly split, or just a couple with a huge majority - everyone is different. That'w why the best way to treat premature ejaculation is to tackle all the causes, as this guarantees the highest rate of success.
  
  Don't lose hope though - premature ejaculation treatment is real and there are guys all over the world conquering it day in and day out!
QUESTION:
Do I orgasm to quickly?
If I "go at it" without interruption I can ejaculate in under 5 minutes. However, I can get right up to the point of no return and back off. If I can control when I orgasm is it still considered premature ejaculation? I'm also wondering if this is normal. Do guys have to stop during intercourse to prevent them from reaching orgasm too quickly or are you just supposed to be able to go at it for 30 min straight without going off?
- ANSWER:
  average time for guys is 3 minutes, average time for girls is 15. So yes, guys do have that problem of having to stop in the middle of sex.
QUESTION:
SSRI Antidepressants Withdrawal causing Premature Ejaculation.. Any Tips?
i have been on 150mg/day Effexor (Venlafaxine) for the past 3 years and added 75mg/day of Wellbutrin (Bupropion) to counter the Effexor side effects for the last 2 years.
Last month, i started tapering off the Effexor little by little and i had to give up on Wellbutrin as well since it kept me from sleeping. It's been a week since i completely stopped using both of them and the withdrawal effects are still horrible, i can't sleep, i feel dizzy, tired, i get frequent mood shifts (although i end up more feeling like shit and wanting to kill myself than experiencing euphoria (happened once)), i still get the brain shivers and very weird dreams, but i can cope with all of these.

The only side effect of my withdrawal that scares me is that i now suffer of premature ejaculation, which i never had before taking these damn antidepressants. This is truly horrible and destroys whatever i had left of self-confidence. i'm lucky if i can last for a minute of stroking and i can't hold it at all. the orgasm isn't even pleasurable.

i know that this happens quite often when stopping SSRIs, but i desperately need some advice. When can i expect to get back to normal? Are there things i can do to help my situation here? Any success stories anyone? i need some comforting, please :'(

i really do not want to go back to antidepressants as they kept me away from my emotions and ambitions, i finally start to feel alive after three years of rotting, but a fulfilling sex life is more important to me than a fulfilling life.
i have been on a waiting list to see a psychiatrist for the last 3-4 years and there's no way i can meet a psychologist either, i'm too poor. i could maybe make an appointment with a doctor, but they're pretty much all incompetent around here. i'll probably get the: ''oh these things happen, wait a few more weeks.'' or the ''you're doing this too fast, want a new prescription?'' answer.
one thing i am certain of is that i do not want to get back on antidepressants as i feel completely brain-dead on those, they keep me from having any emotion and/or ambition and the person i am since i'm using them sickens me even more than the person i was before.
but there's no way in this world that i'm having sex with a partner while this condition lasts.. i'm single right now, but i'm in love with someone and this keeps me from seeing her in real life, i do not want our first intercourse to last 34 seconds.. :'(
i want to d
- ANSWER:
  I'm not entirely sure on time scales or anything and am a woman so not sure if what I have to say is useful...
  
  BUT I was on venlafaxine for about 2 years and whilst on it it entirely destroyed my sex drive- when I came off it the initial few weeks I had some ridiculous rebound sex drive- I felt turned on constantly and would orgasm very quickly- but then after about 6 weeks maybe (?) I'd say it all returned to normal.. so i'd imagine it will for you too.
  
  If by the time the dizziness, tiredness and brain shivers have gone you're still having this problem then I would go back to your doctor and have a word with them- although I don't think you'll need to!
  
  All that aside, are you sure this is the right time to come off the anti-depressants? the mood swings and suicidal thoughts sound terrible! Would it be worth perhaps staying on 75mg or even 37.5mg for a little while whilst you adjust?
  
  Good luck with it,
  
  Take care x
QUESTION:
can you have an orgasm from just kissing?
my boyfriend and i were making out naked and i gave him oral for a few seconds. then i stopped & he ejaculated while we were french kissing. what does it mean? or was it just a premature ejaculation or something? thanks
- ANSWER:
  Yep, premature or something. Seems like he's not used yet to oral and it was too exciting for him to wait for his shot any longer.
QUESTION:
premature ejaculation. ladies if you can please give advice.?
im 21 years old. recently in the past few months it seems like i have been having trouble with premature ejaculation. this was never a problem before with me because i could last a long time. now though, when im actually having sex i last for 10 seconds to 30 seconds maximum until i orgasm. after i ejaculate, i cant go anymore and need to stop. my friend who i sleep with, were not really dating, doesnt show that it bothers her and she never criticizes me for it. like i said its only been happening for about 4 months or so. i went to my doctor and she said everything was normal and that i was fine, so i dont no what the problem is. ive been checked out by 3 doctors and they all say the same thing. so ladies who are answering this, does something like this really bother you and make you really annoined or mad? does it make you angry that the man your with gets to orgasm and you dont? or do you not care about it at all? if you have a suggestions for me please share them.
- ANSWER:
  As long as your pleasing her in other ways then it really may not be bothering her. Make sure that she also has an orgasm by either oral or manual stimulation. If you are leaving her high and dry, then yeah she will get pissed. As for the cause of your recent problems perhaps it is due to stress or some other change in routine. Perhaps trying to tie one off before hand may help you last a little longer. Good luck.
QUESTION:
Could this have caused my premature ejaculation?
Hello,
Until now I have never had an issue with premature ejaculation. In fact, for my first 5-10 times having sex I had more of an issue even reaching the point of ejaculation. The night before this sexual experience I had masturbated to the point of ejaculation and stopped as close I could without ejaculation or orgasm. I did this several times and then the next day I ejaculated within a matter of minutes just from a handjob.

This seemed to make sense. However, about an hour or two later I was hard again and we had sex. When we did, again I came quickly, within a matter of minutes of the sex. This is what confused me. Shouldn't it be the opposite effect in which I would take a really long time to ejaculate instead?

This confusion only lead to over-thinking it at the moment, leading to my inability to get an erection with her for the rest of that day.

Thanks in advance for any anwers
- ANSWER:
  Ejaculation usually takes a very short time. It was more unusual that you took LONG to ejaculate.
QUESTION:
I can ejaculate without having an orgasm?
Ok so, a little while ago while masturbating I tried using the techniques that supposedly help you last longer (Using the muscle that you use to stop peeing) So when I was getting close to orgasm I really squeezed that muscle, but it didn't keep me from having an orgasm, so I went VERY close to having an orgasm but was able to pull off. It then felt like I had to pee so I pushed and out came sperm, actual sperm that would have come out if I had continued on to orgasm. So I've been doing that more often to see if it would continue, and it does, so now I can ejaculate sperm before an orgasm, by using that muscle? Is there any explanation to this, is it premature ejaculation that I can control? I'm a little confused, so any help would be appreciated.
- ANSWER:
  I'm not sure what you call it, but it's definitely a lot more control than most guys have. By separating the ejaculation from the orgasm you might be able to become multi-orgasmic. That's like the holy grail for guys, since normally we're one and done. Cool!
QUESTION:
How can I stop getting upset when my boyfriend premature ejaculates? (adults)?
I don't know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together for two months, we are both
in our twenties, and we haven't had sex that's lasted more than four minutes.

I've tried many, many times.
I've tried lots of things, I go on top and take it slow, I increase foreplay,
we practice safe sex, tantra. Nothing works. I have never had this problem with
a partner before.

I am not hard to make orgasm, but I just don't get the chance in under 5 minutes.
I feel bad because I am a very sexual person, but after sex with him I do not feel good,
like I usually feel.
It makes me disappointed and fustrated. Sometimes I get angry or want to cry.
I go in the other room so he doesn't see my reaction.

What's making things worse is I've started fantasising about other
men when I masturbate. When I think of him I know I'm not going to have
a enjoyable sexual experience. It's like, I want to want him, but after trying so
many times, nothings happening down there ... towards him.

Other than this he is a good boyfriend. But each time it happens, the less
I want to try again. The less attractive I find him.
I'm starting to wish I wasn't sexual at all- its only causing problems.
I feel like such a bad girlfriend.

I need advice. I need help.

1. How can I make myself attracted to him again?
and
2. How does one deal with premature ejaculation?
- ANSWER:
  Be honest with your boyfriend and tell your boyfriend to control it.
  
  I can give you the 3 simple steps.
  Step 1 - Mental control...
  believe it or not, the thoughts running through your head during sex make a huge difference to how long you can last. With a little guidance, you'll learn how to focus on the good stuff and still last way longer than you can now.
  
  Step 2 - Hormone regulation...
  as we mentioned, understanding the actual process of ejaculation will help you get a long way to sustaining your lovemaking. And once you understand it, you'll know how to regulate the exact hormones that cause you to climax, so you'll automatically last longer...
  
  Step 3 - Physical control...
  lastly, there are a handful of things that are guaranteed to make you climax way sooner than you want to. If you know what they are, you can regulate or eliminate them, and suddenly the whole thing is completely under your control.
  
  More information on http://www.ejaculationtraining4.com
QUESTION:
How does women achieve orgasm?
Hi all, am a 21 year old virgin guy, I have a silly question for you all, please answer as I really don't know about it, how does women actually achieve orgasm?. Does she need continuous penetrative sex for a longtime or penetrative sex with adequate breaks can still make her achieve orgasm, why am asking this is because I have premature ejaculation problem, eventhough I have started to excercise for the PE, by stop and go technique, which is easy for me to do, but when I have sex with a women can I take some adequate breaks? if so I take will it affect my gal achieve orgasm? Please am new to this stuff, guys and gals please answer. please no making fun.
How about the breaks, will it affect the girl's orgasm, I mean will it be a distraction to her, or just like a break.
- ANSWER:
  Some women don't orgasm from regular vaginal penetration. I think it's something like 20-30% of women. So it's pretty common.
  
  There are basically three types of female orgasm: clitoral, vaginal penetration, and the g-spot. Oral sex or manual is usually stimulating the clitoris. I'll let you look up where the g-spot is on Google... I don't want to type it out. Vaginal penetration is obvious. You can do more than one of these simultaneously.
  
  The key is for a woman to be really turned on before you start with sex. This also makes sex more comfortable for her... starting too soon can be uncomfortable or even painful. However, women don't always have to have an orgasm to feel satisfied by sex. Men don't always, either. I mean, it's awesome to get there, but don't underestimate the pleasure that comes from just being together, even if you don't quite hit the "goal." Every woman is different.
QUESTION:
Premature Ejaculation. A few questions. Please help?
Im 18 a virgin but have a girlfriend and am worried that when we do have sex i won't last anywhere near long enough to satisfy her.

My doubts are because when i masturbate, i feel the urge to orgasm after about 3 mins. Am i right in stopping when this urge happens and then continuing after? I usually do this about 3 times and orgasm on the third, so masturbation usually lasts 10 mins.

Also, when i masturbate watching porn, i orgasm much quicker then when i do not. Would i be better masturbating without porn fullstop from now on to train myself up?

Is 10 mins in terms on masturbation really bad and will this reflect in sex? Finally, with the urge to orgasm after 3 minutes of masturbation is this bad also?

Please help answer these questions and any other tips much appreciated!!

thankyou
- ANSWER:
  You're a virgin. I'm sure she will expect this for your first time. The more experience you get with your partner, the longer you will last.
QUESTION:
I have premature ejaculation!!! HELP ME!!?
I'm 17 years old and I can *** in les than a minute if I want to. I can't last very long and when I stop before I reach orgasm it's like 10 seconds stronking 30 seconds waiting and so on. What should I do? I don't have a girlfriend anymore but it really annoyed me when I had a girlfriend because I was horny all the time and wanted it to last as long as possible. Lucky for me she didn't care because she was a virgin and all it did was hurt the first few times and I was good enough with my hands and mouth to make her *** a lot of times. Yes, I enjoyed foreplay more and she did either but I don't want to be the guy that can't have normal sex because of this bs. What to do against it and will it get better with age?
I don't know if it has anything to do with it but I'm an emotional person too and I really loved my girlfriend and I LOVE sex. I get VERY VERY VERY excited by only thinking about it. I'm also very impulsive and a bit crazy. Maybe it has something to do with my personality. I mean the emotional part.
- ANSWER:
  Did a quick google search: http://stopearlyejaculation.com is a good site, has some free articles to read and stuff which will help you.
  
  Its either that or have a pump fitted (not a joke btw real operation)
QUESTION:
i need help...with premature ejaculation?
i need help...with premature ejaculation

We've been together for about 6 years...i think he really has a physiological problem...i don't know what else to do...he never last more than one minute..

lately ive been telling hinm to pull out when he feels the urge..and when it lessens..he can insert it back in...but even doing so, instantly he will stop cuz he's about to come again...

.Well he works out so i told him to use all of the muslces in his body to hold it in...and when he pulls out to stop from cummming...i can feel goosebumps on his body (a sign he's about to come) and he's shaking tryin to hold his come in....

so we've tried this a couple of time....and now when he pulls out....he just goes limp....so does this mean he has erectile disfunction too? He watches porn about 2 to 3 times a week ( during a time when im not home though he's not computer savvy and doesnt know i can check history) and i don't mind him looking at other women...I'm decent in the looks department and my man loves me so he's always all over me and very affectionate towards me...we use to watch porn together..

.but as much as I love him ....i've never had an orgasm through intercourse with him...I'm pretty sure im one of those girls that come through clitoral stimulation more but the pounding of sexual intercourse still feels good and excites me....though its so short

anyways i've stop him from watching porn cuz i was thinking maybe he's watching too much porn ..that's why he has this problem...am i crazy for thinking this? because i made him stop watching porn he wants me more now...which kinda makes me mad....is it a girl insecurity thing ? but because of that i dont even wanna do him anymore and am never in the mood

Anyways..if anyone can help me out..please do but dont judge....
- ANSWER:
  cure premature ejaculation naturally
  
  there is always ways to do it..
  
  you have control hormone, and your mind
  
  more information on
  
  http://www.cureprematureejaculations.com
QUESTION:
I think I have Premature ejaculation? If not how can I last longer?
I'm 16 about to turn 17, I'm not a virgin and have a sexually active relationship. The first time we both did it I got anxious and so went an hour and a half didnt cum and she wanted to stop. The more we do it the shorter my time seems to be getting. Now i'm around 20 minutes although once I embarrasingly lasted about 4 minutes. I haven't made her orgasm once, I've tried hand, mouth, intercourse, repeatedly but she just won't orgasm. I'm worried because I'm the only one having an orgasm and so I want to know if I have a problem that needs to be checked out? Her ex boyfriend was very well hung and honestly im just normal, could this be the issue? Also he is a bodybuilder and had climax issues so sex would last for hours, even ending in a 8 hour continous session. He made her orgasm 7 times in one hit but I cant make her once.

So I want to know do I have an issue? If I dont have an issue how can I make myself last longer without stopping myself from orgasming completely? She doesn't like me not orgasming at all but im having a massive guilt trip and self esteem issues. I've forced myself not to come but I still don't have the physical stamina to last even an hour without needing a break.
I masturbate about once a day in an attempt to cure this, will this make me last longer? If not im happy to stop but its driving me insane. I've started working out 3-4 times a week and maybe 1-2 more of just plain cardio. I also suffer from anxiety and depression and I am on anti depressants, will this make any difference? I feel so bad about this that ive even self harmed, I mean her ex could go for 8 hours and made her orgasm seven times, what is wrong with me??
- ANSWER:
  Very few women want vaginal intercourse to last for more than 15 minutes, much less more than a hour, particularly if the man is repeating the same action like push-ups. I had a college roommate who used to fall asleep while her boyfriend continued the same constant rhythm for a couple hours. He never noticed.
  
  The key is foreplay. Yes, you may think once you've gotten to third base there's no sense in batting again, but you have to every time! Start by kissing her face, her lips, playing with her hair, kissing the back of her neck, stroking your hand along her waist to her hips. Massage her feet if you're into it. Braid her hair, give her a back rub, cup your hands around her breasts and gently rub and lick the nipples. Run your finger down her belly to the clitoris. That little button above the vagina. Don't just stick your finger in the vagina. Use your finger to caress that button and slide it down to the vagina and then back up until you feel both of you are lubricated.
  
  After penetration (using birth control, of course), vary the rhythm, the intensity, the direction and the position of love-making. Think of lightly punching yourself on the arm for an hour to determine how erotic that is. Ejaculating sperm directly into the girl's vagina will not set off fireworks. Sperm or ejaculate have nothing to do with a woman's orgasm. Use a condom. A lot of my girl friend's thought that the lack of pleasure was because of birth control. NOT the case. The lack of pleasure is because the female orgasm is not necessary for natural selection, and so has not played a major role in reproduction, and thus is more difficult to induce.
  
  It is as embarrassing for me to write this as for you to read this, even though I lecture on human sexuality in my psychology courses. I rarely go into such specifics, however, unless I have a student that keeps waving a hand with questions. I did not learn the specifics from a textbook but from a boyfriend, who also passed along his secrets to his male friends, who gave him the total high five for the info on the clitoris.
  
  Who is telling you her ex could go for 8 hours and made her orgasm seven times? If your girlfriend is saying that, you are welcome to tell her that research authorities in sexual behavior would consider both her and her ex-boyfriend's intercourse practice at the extreme edge of the norm. Perhaps she should grovel back to him.
QUESTION:
anyone else have diffulty in having orgasm while taking flomax?
I believe this is a known side effect of taking Flomax. I take it for an enlarged prostate and it has been very effective in controlling that, but I notice a marked increase in difficulty achieving orgasm, especially during intercourse with my wife. This can be a good thing to a point, I can go on for a very long time, which is better than premature ejaculation problem. But often, I cannot get over the hump at all and finish. she wants me to orgasm too, so we both feel satisfied and it can be frustrating to just stop because we got tired. I can usually finish by mastubating myself, which can be fun, finish on her breasts or face, whatever, like a porn movie. Do others notice this side effect?
Well thanks for the answers but I must say I dont need advice on how to eat healthy. Ive been eating a healthy diet all my life. It's not automatic any medical problem is caused by poor diet. I will check out the bars you mentioned as I had not heard of them
- ANSWER:
  According to THE PILL BOOK, 13th edition, one of the less-common side effects of Flomax (of which there are many) is "abnormal ejaculation." Pretty sure in your case that means prolonged or retarded ejaculation.
  
  If it bothers you, talk with your physician. There are drugs in other chemical classes that are supposed to have the benefits of Flomax.
QUESTION:
I've Premature Ejaculation at 23?
Hello everybody.....i am 23....male (of course) and i have PREMATURE EJACULATION....which is starting to affect my beautiful relationship with my woman...although we found a system so that i ejaculate then for the second time give her an orgasm...i used to have it when i was around 17-18 and it went on to around 21 then its stopped till 5 months ago....i ejaculate in less than 4 minutes...you can scream....and its not cool at all....my girlfriend went back to her country since we live in china (she went for an exam) and now am here alone....i wanna prepare for her before she comes back so that i can give her the orgasmes that i used to give her... can i cure it?? can it go away?? what can i do about it?? i dont need a doctor or medication....i need something done naturally....but if u only have medication to advice me then its okay....please help because i know that you know that its very FRUSTATING.
- ANSWER:
  Premature ejaculation primarily has a physiological basis. Biologically, men have an orgasm approximately 2-3 minutes after penetrating the vagina. Women, on the other hand, typically take more time to reach the climax. Since in most cases, the partners may not climax together, they are not satisfied and the ejaculation is termed premature.
  
  However, premature ejaculation may be caused by a variety of psychological and social reasons. It is seen that it occurs frequently when the man is under mental stress or anxiety. Anxiety may be due to the fear of non-performance, the fear of being discovered (as during premarital or extramarital sex in our society) or anxiety related to contraction of sexually transmitted diseases or an unwanted pregnancy.
  
  The following techniques may be beneficial in delaying ejaculation:
  
  1. The "stop and start" method – in this method, the man learns to recognise the stage after which he cannot control ejaculation. The treatment method trains the person to remove the stimulus just before that stage is reached so that the urge to ejaculate is controlled. For example, when during masturbation, the man reaches a point just before ejaculating, he stops the stimulus until he starts losing the erection. Once the stage is past, he can resume the activity. This process is repeated again and again until the individual is able to delay ejaculation till the time he wishes. This method called the 'Masters and Johnson method', is most effective when the help of the partner is sought during actual intercourse.
  2. The squeeze technique – in this method, the partner gently squeezes the tip or base of the penis just before the point of ejaculation thereby "cancelling" the orgasm. This process can be continued until the couple decides mutually to reach the climax.
  3. Desensitising creams and gels are available in the market that reduce the sensitivity of the penis and help men reach climax later. Some men also feel that condoms reduce the sensations and, in addition to providing safer sex, help them last longer.
  4. The couple can also experiment with sexual positions as some positions offer more control than others and may help to delay ejaculation.
  
  The optimal medical treatment for PE has not been established and the U.S. FDA has not approved any drug for its treatment but many studies have shown that a group of drugs called selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and drugs with SSRI-like side effects are safe and effective to treat this condition. Dapoxetine is a novel, fast-acting serotonin reuptake inhibitor which under FDA review for the treatment of premature ejaculation. Recent phase 3 clinical trials in patients with premature ejaculation have shown it to be effective in improving the time to ejaculation without any major adverse events, except nausea.
QUESTION:
Please help me! Premature Ejaculation?
I am in love with this wonderfull girl, we have been together for 3 and a half years, i love her so much. she 23 and im 24.

The thing is I really struggle with Premature Ejaculation, sometimes i can go longer but must of the times im in and out and its finished.

I know about all the apparant meds that are suppose to help, but theu dont. Please im looking for answers from people that had a similar problem and overcame it through wich ever technique or things you did to stop you from blowing your load.

I really want to be able to last long enough to at least make her orgasm, i love her so much and want to satisfy her really bad!

Thanks 1minute man
- ANSWER:
  think of something disgusting, like your doing your sister
QUESTION:
I'm 16. I think I suffer from premature ejaculation yet have full control over my PC muscles. What do i do?
I have a steady girlfriend and we have sex semi-regularly, always using a condom. I know my PC muscles, use Kegels to strengthen them, and can recognize the sensation of an orgasm, which I then halt using the stop-start method. However, most of the time it takes only a minute or two before I need to use the stop-start method, which doesn't make for very good sex. Can anyone help me last longer by being less sensitive so that I don't have to stop as often or as soon? Thanks
I have a steady girlfriend and we have sex semi-regularly, always using a condom. I know my PC muscles, use Kegels to strengthen them, and can recognize the sensation of an orgasm, which I then halt using the stop-start method. However, most of the time it takes only a minute or two before I need to use the stop-start method, which doesn't make for very good sex. Can anyone help me last longer by being less sensitive so that I don't have to stop as often or as soon? I've already gotten a few answers about masturbating prior to sex, does anyonehave any other options? Thanks
Sorry I posted the same thing. What I meant to say was does anyone have other options in addition to masturbation beforehand?
- ANSWER:
  You can buy condoms that have a sort of numbing affect, which thus decreases sensitivity
  
  I assume you can buy them from pharmacies etc
  
  Btw it's normal at your age to come early, it's just how it is coz of hormones etc
  Least you have control over it
QUESTION:
Premature ejaculation?
I have never had this problem before but this new girl I have been seeing has mostly been with older guys and is alot more sexualy experienced then me. I get anxious when we have sex because it is very had to get her to reach orgasm. I feel like i'm gonna orgasm right away. My doctor gave me some viagra but all that really did was make my head hurt. What can I do to make myself last longer. I have tried the stop start method but that makes it harder to please her. I have tried rings and even the viagra didnt make me like super hard and able to keep going
- ANSWER:
  U have worked yourself up into a frenzy. If she loves u she will stick through it and work it out with u. Trust me I have been down this road and I stuck it out and once we succeeded, ohhhh we did and the problem was gone after that. Tell her how u feel and whats going on. If she loves u her words alone may ease your fears and solve the prob. U dont need viagra thats not the problem, use a condom take it slow open the lines of communication and if all else fails then try a delay cream. But really talk 1st
QUESTION:
Premature ejaculation at 14...?
Im 14 and I just masturbated using the stop and go method. I ejaculated semen but I didn't have an orgasm. What's that about?
- ANSWER:
QUESTION:
Concerning premature ejaculation.?
Do the women that have to deal with this
from their man let it stop them from
enjoying the sexual moment ? Also
would it be a problem if the man made
the woman climax first then proceeded
to his quick orgasm?
- ANSWER:
  The best thing to do is just take your time and try to be patient. If he's not too old after ejaculating he should be able to get another erection in 10-30 minutes. The second round should last much longer and during that 10-30 minutes he can pleasure you with his mouth and hands. Trying new positions that stimulate your clitoris and g-spot more are great too. Look up the kamasutra online to get more info on these positions. Spend more time during foreplay to get you going.
  
  Don't belittle him unless it's playful or he likes it. Having an orgasm beforehand sometimes is great too but it depends on the person. Try it to see how you like it.
  Have fun
  
  Good luck
QUESTION:
Do i have premature Ejaculation?
I began to have sex about 7 months ago. I tipicly have sex 4 times a month. Most of the time me and my girl have to have sex under some kind of time limit or we are alert to noises if my dad or mom come to the house. So whene i begin to penetrate her i can last for about 30 to 40 seconds non stop. After that i begin to pull out and repet the same process. Most of the time i ejaculate 15 minutes to 30 minutes later. Usualy mi girl does not reach the orgasm. So i wait 10 Minutes and i get another hard one. And usualy the 2nd one take along time, i can got for about 5 minutes non stop. Then i begin the stop and go process again. Most of the time she reaches the orgasm by the second time. My question is...what advice do you have to last longer during the first try. I dont think its a smart idea to alway ejaculate twice right?thanks for your time
If you wold like to give me advice through email let me konw
- ANSWER:
  If you have to pull out after around 30 seconds to avoid the climax, that sounds to me like you are experiencing premature ejaculation. However, you have found one way to deal with it. If you are not against it, you could try masturbating in private before having sex. There are more ways and information at http://www.learn-how-to-last-longer-in-bed.com
  
  Best of luck.
QUESTION:
Is the "sqeeze technique" (premature ejaculation treatment) harmful?
I'm thinking about trying this. I don't ejaculate TOO soon, but I'd still like a little more time. Basically, you or your partner squeezes just below the head of the penis just before you ejaculate. I don't know if it's just me, but when any kind of pressure is applied right before "the moment"..."the moment" happens even faster. Are you supposed to use this technique to prevent your body from even attempting to orgasm, or are you supposed to use it when an orgasm is inevitable? Meaning, do you use it to kind of stop the semen from exiting? If the latter answer is correct, isn't this harmful? Thanks
Just confused that's all... a lot of websites are saying that doctors actually recommend this technique...example- http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/library/DS/00578.html
I honestly could see it being harmful, that's why I was thinking I was getting the wrong idea on how it was performed. Am I? Is it just somehow NOW harmful?
So what do you do? Squeeze seconds before an orgasm to prevent it from even starting, or squeeze JUST before an orgasm just to hold it back?
- ANSWER:
  No, don't do that. What happens is the semen just builds up in the space between your seminal sphincter and your penis hole, ie: the tube. You can hurt your tube this way and the semen can get squirted backwards into the wrong pipe, ie your bladder/urinary tract. This can cause lots of pain and discomfort and damage to your urinary tract that can get infected.
QUESTION:
How does one cure SEXUAL "failure" ?
When I say this I mean over masturbation. I have heard over masturbation leads to erections not working right, premature ejaculation, leads to less to no orgasm ( literally semen ejaculates with no orgasm) , and irregular times for wanting sex....... Bad odors..... Ect .....

How does one cure this, natural ways if you stop can it be cured?

How to cure? Best answer 10 points and I take the info. Thanks.
- ANSWER:
  None of this is true. Masturbation does not lead to any of these things. In fact, it is healthy for men.
QUESTION:
Premature Ejaculation? Loose valve?!?
When I masturbate, and I’m approaching the point of no return, I stop stimulating it and I still shoot. The funny thing though is that I can still resume masturbating like 10 seconds later. But I don’t get the intense orgasmic rush, just that relatively enjoyable “burning” sensation of the loins. Isn’t this weird? I blow a good fraction of the stored load but I don’t orgasm but I can still continue. I think I can do this indefinitely but the final orgasm is lackluster and doesn’t really seem worth all the time. It seems better just to go for a quickie since it's more intense. For lack of proper knowledge, I’d probably say I have like a loose valve or muscle or sphincter that would otherwise retain the semen. What kind of condition is this?
- ANSWER:
  Learn to control ejaculation so that you can build slowly to a powerful climax and prepare yourself for sex with partners. Every man is born with premature ejaculation, so having it is perfectly normal – to start with. Controlling ejaculation is something you have to learn just as you had to learn to control your bladder as a child. We get taught to control our bladders but no one teaches us how to control ejaculation.
  
  Do not waste time or money on sprays, vitamins, herbs, dietary supplements or drugs. This is a learning problem and these things will not help you learn to control ejaculation any more than they can help you to learn to speak another language.
  
  There are a lot of high-priced programs advertised online but all you need is an inexpensive little book written by a doctor and sex therapist that has been used successfully for more than 32 years.
  
  It is called "Lasting Longer: The Treatment Program for Premature Ejaculation" by Dr. Sy Silverberg M.D. For more information just google the doctor’s name: Dr. Sy Silverberg M.D.
QUESTION:
Premature Ejaculation (serious answers only please ?
Hi, are there any tips/ techniques i could use to help delay ejaculation???

i wouldnt say i "come" particuarly quickly, the main problem is i always "come" before my gf...... i believe it to be psychological, but i really want to please her, and its getting us both down.

we can be having sex for 15-20 minutes and i will be fine, but just as shes about to come, a sudden urge comes over me to come, which wasnt there before she was near, if i stop the urge goes, but also stops her from coming, then i will start again and the same thing happens again, and if i carry on and come obviously i finish before she does, and that leaves her feeling frustrated, and me inadequate.

how can i delay myself so i can finally finish her off.

unfortunately i know u may say most girls come clitorally, but not this one, its "too sensitive and tickles too much", the only way i can bring her close to orgasm is through penetrative sex.

please help, ive tried everything and nothing seems to work
ROSEYK- u just know, with noises she makes i.e moans, she will tell me shes going to cum and say stuff like there, or keep doing that etc, or feel her clench, get wetter etc, all those into account, i just knw
- ANSWER:
  I heard masturbating in the shower "frequently" makes you last longer. On occasion I make my husband wear a "cock ring" Try that!
QUESTION:
Am I still a premature ejaculator?
Alright, so a little history: I used to have MAJOR premature ejaculation issues. My first 3 partners, I'd literally come on the first stroke or, on the best occasions, within the first 5 to 10 seconds. Obviously this was super embarrassing . . . but I really worked at it; first by getting super good at oral sex and things like that so I wouldn't totally disappoint me partners, and then but doing a lot of research to learn techniques that would help and just as importantly got more experience and plenty "self practice".
At this point, I've made a LOT of improvement and think I've pretty much conquered the MENTAL aspect of the issue. That said, I think I'm just naturally prone to be a little on the quick side; physically just super sensitive. So while intercourse lasts much longer, I'm never able to keep continually thrusting for longer than about 20-30 seconds at a time. I have the control to stop when I'm getting close so intercourse lasts a lot longer (and i still take care of my partner's orgasms in other ways) . . . but I feel like I've reached the peak of how much I can improve my stamina. So, my question is . . . is this common and appropriate: thrusting for 20 to 30 seconds, pausing (sometimes switching positions) and just continuing to do that until the periods of thrusting get shorter and shorter as things progress and eventually I finish. Or are most people able to continually thrust for longer periods of time?
thanks for your answers and your honesty.
- ANSWER:
  Yep, very much so. My husband, too; after 6 years, it has become somewhat of an issue, actually. He's not able to last more than a minute or three.
  
  20-30 seconds is pretty extreme, though, to have to feel like you must pause. Its doing *nothing* for your partner, I don't care HOW good your tongue is. Nothing compares to a live penis. No substitutes.
  
  Wish I had a solution or suggestion outside of using drugs. Have you tried being drunk?
QUESTION:
Opposite of premature ejaculation?
Although it may sound funny, i have here a very serious question. I'm 22, and i've begun lately to have frequent sexual activity, but i've still never ejaculated during intercourse. I read a yahoo question from a guy called uncummable that was posted 2 years ago, and i'm convinced i have the same ''problem'' as him, since the description he gave quite exactly applies to me. Here are parts of what he wrote :

Most of you may find this question really funny. But you will probably understand the difficulty once you are in this condition.

My girl friend(s) have tried oral and vaginal intercourse in different ways and continuously without a break for upto 15 mins and I get pleasure from all those
but no climax. I am healthy, age 25, correct BMI, taken no medication for a very long time, stopped smoking before one year and drinks once in a month or two if any of these matters.

I am not dissappointed or desparate of this problem and I know it is not any psychological issue.

It is just the feeling that will I be ever able to complete it atleast once....

Like this guy, i have pleasure during sex, but the orgasm won't come. Like this guy, I'm healthy (mentally and physicaly), i don't use any drugs, etc.
I'd really want to get in touch with this guy, since he could have resolved this issue and may be help me. So if you, uncommable, or somebody who knows how i could reach him (via e-mail) read this, please let me know. Otherwise, the question i'm asking is what would be the ''therapy'' to solve this. The advice of a sex therapist (directly or not) would be greatly appreciated.

P.S. : does anybody knows what the medical term for the opposite of ejaculation is? I read it once on the Internet but i can't come up with it anymore.
- ANSWER:
  keep trying dude, I think you are allright, keep trying it for a longtime, you can, else consult a urologist.
QUESTION:
How long does premature ejaculation last?
My boyfriend and I recently had sex for the first time (we're in our 20s and have been dating 4 years) and he was a virgin. He had this idea in his head like it would be like the movies and he would orgasm fast the first time and then magically be able to go for hours and that it would be some wonderful bonding experience and we'd feel super in love. Now that he realizes he built it up way too much in his head, he's lost all his self-confidence because he's finishing so fast. My question is how long does it take after losing your virginity to really be able to last longer. After already having finished once he was able to last much, much longer (10 min, I had to stop because I was sore), but he won't seem to accept that. He's not really excited about sex anymore and I'm worried about him. So:

1. How long will it take after losing his virginity to be able to last longer?
2. How can I make it more of a bonding experience for him?
3. How can I encourage him and boost his self confidence while getting him excited for sex again?

Thanks!
- ANSWER:
  premature ejaculation is the most common sexual problem affecting men. The condition is most often described as being an inability to delay ejaculation before the female partner reaches her climax.
  
  http://premature-ejaculation.in/
QUESTION:
Male Masturbation: For maximum jet-stream ejaculation effect need proper health ?
I was wondering , that sometimes , well if you're screwed up , many times you don't have proper orgasm or not as good as , and so is the ejaculation. So im 19 of age , and live quite , well not so healthy but it's improving , I do however fitness and train but I didn't necessarily obey all rules (alcohol, fast food, lack of sleep) ; but this is becoming old, so i want to improve health not just for good lifestyle but also for orgasm.

Is there any connection how much you drink water , cause , when i started fitness and treking like 3 years ago , i was VAST improvment of health and mind, and i started to drink a lot of water, not overdrinking but still making sure you pee more white than yellow.

Have heard , that alcohol has really bombarding effect , so that session is done for.

And another thing, I think more masturbation desire,effect,and results would came if you wait more , like a week would be enough. And in that time you have to think other things, friends , girls, party, fun, games(not computer games), going to gym , body training, more intense the training better results, that are the first circumstances i think, just don't sit all day then you get to think about masturbation too often , and if you don't exercise on top of that , you think it about even more , since body needs something to do , those orgasms are often , short , really under the standards and are just bad.

So my question is if there are some special masturbation techniques or rules to achieve the maximum semen ejaculation so you long-projectile stripes shoots like crazy instad of short little bursts which just make a mess in your hands and aren't as pleasurable; or it's more dependent on what you eat, sleep , no alc , good training , drinking natural pipe water .. etc. I need other advices , but i think it's the readyness and fitness probably is the big contributor.

Body training like running has really good effect, a lot of times it boosted , but I always fail to meet all the rules , every time something's wrong , or im sleepy , or im not in the mood , or im half empty , or i missed something. so actually this long shot jet-stream-shape like ejaculation happens rarely. Artillery not sissy droplings!

Oh yes another thing, when do you know your max full ? , the longer you charge (wait time) the more there will be but is there a limit , or will you experience automatic ejaculation if you FORCE your self to skip masturbating for like a month?(never tried it , and no , i did not had wet dreams)

When i forced myself sometimes, to wait longer, i experienced some pre-ejaculation , and sometimes quite a load of it (NOT PREMATURE) ; like it was over the top and some of it wanted to go out before but it did go when i was close to orgasm but still not full , i think it has to do with porn, since if you watch porn you get hyped all up so fast you don't have time for orgasm-charging , and the pre-ejaculation is the fast burst and then the orgasm comes a lot faster if you don't stop before/regulate, this is a nice way to achieve some ejaculation before orgasm which is sometimes kind of cool (you guess this one your self) ; but it is not the way to achieve perfect orgasm IMO.
To do that i think you must stay away from porn , and only think about it , but still don't think too much so you can charge it for more than 15 minutes that's when i think the load will be larger;;; but another problem here, how do i make pre-ejaculate when not watching porn , i found that quite difficult , since you don't get the sudden burst of activity, but when you get it you get full blow and there's no stopping that. It would be cool to have pre-ejaculate AND the better orgasm.

There is a problem though, I've noticed , even if you have criteria ( not sure) , and you charged for 20 mins or more , you can get a good orgasm and loads of ejaculation , but i noticed if you thrust it with your hands too fast , then it's going to be a lame version, it's kind of short cut of jet's and it's more like a spray.

Another thing , density , sometimes it is too waterly, i like to drink a lot water , but what about to have it more oily , do i have to drink less water forcefully , or is there a alternate tehnique.(GF doesn't like that it dripps down so quickly, making more mess)

Would it be the best orgasm and ejaculation ever if you wait just days until you can't take it anymore or it's 1 week enough and more than 1 week won't matter much?

The question remains, i still don't know all the details to the ultimate guide ho
uf , the ending got cut of , at the end i didn't realize how much i written omg , well , one that finds the time to read ...
- ANSWER:
  You only need to wait about 3 days to have a full load.
  
  If you want to shoot more you are doing the right thing to have a 15 or 20 minute buildup.
  
  Also you can try masturbating about 3 or 4 hrs before you want the big load get close to orgasm but stop before you get there.
  
  Also, get close to ejaculating a few times but stop or slow down a lot until that peak diminishes, then continue.
  
  Also, you always shoot more if you are standing up
QUESTION:
a personal question for u girls!!?
It's a sex question. It seems as if I can have an orgasm unless I give it myself. When my boyfriend and I have sex, he uses the pull out method and i honestly think that i have never had an orgasm during sex. I think that too with 3rd base. The only time my boyfriend can get me off is if he fingers me. I'm afraid that when we decide to have children, i won't have an orgasm then. Honestly, I think that my boyfriend cums 2 quick because after he pulls out twice, he cums into the condom. It's starting to make me a little ill.

Is there anything I can do to help myself and is there anything i can do to stop his premature ejaculation?

Sorry for all the TMI!!!
- ANSWER:
  It doesn't sound like sex is lasting long enough for you to find a rhythm so that you could have an orgasm.
  
  Most women do not have one through sexual intercourse alone, it requires direct manual or oral stimulation to the clitoris. It's so unfortunate that many men do not want to take the time to learn how to please a woman.
  
  For his problem (though he will have to want to work on it):
  
  In general, practice and relaxation will help you deal with the problem. Some men try to distract themselves by thinking non-sexual thoughts (such as naming baseball players and records) to avoid becoming excited too fast.
  
  Some helpful techniques include the following:
  
  The "stop and start" method:
  
  This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate. The stimulation is then removed for about thirty seconds and then may be resumed. The sequence is repeated until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs.
  
  The "squeeze" method:
  
  This technique involves sexual stimulation until the man recognizes that he is about to ejaculate. At that point, the man or his partner gently squeezes the end of the penis (where the glans meets the shaft) for several seconds, withholding further sexual stimulation for about 30 seconds, and then resuming stimulation. The sequence may be repeated by the person or couple until ejaculation is desired, the final time allowing the stimulation to continue until ejaculation occurs.
QUESTION:
Process of ejaculating ?
Imagine that moment when you feel like you are going to explode then stop right before orgasm. I'm sure we have all had that happen. My question is if any secret sauce that can't be said on here is going through your urethra as you feel like you are going to explode right before you orgasm. And then just goes back. Or is that premature exploding feeling just a feeling? Thanks
- ANSWER:
  Sauce doesn't come out of your penis. (seriously just say it, we aren't 10 anymore)
  
  No, the semen doesn't go back, it's just a feeling.
  
  -Connor
QUESTION:
What can I/we/he do about his premature ejaculation?
I'm sure this question gets posted a lot and I -have- read some of the prior answers. They always say to do this and that before sex and to have him wait a minute when he feels it coming on. BUT- we've talked about it and when he firsts starts to feel it, he immediately orgasms. There is no building and no anticipation. Like a bottle rocket...

The last time we had sex it took about 45 seconds. 10 minutes later I went back for more, beginning with oral sex then sex. The second time it took merely 30 seconds. We've had similar issues like this before and the reason was because he hadn't masturbated in several days. So, since we are open, I went ahead and asked him when the last time he masturbated was and he said today and yesterday.

So I'm asking what else we can do. Don't suggest pills of any kind because we both are iffy about medications in general. We use condoms but he says he can't tell when he ejaculates. He can tell he's reached climax but can't tell that anything came out...I'm not a man, so I don't understand how this is possible...I have suggested the waiting when you feel it coming on method but he says, "It just feels so good, I can't stop it." Suggestions?

By the way, he is 23, I am 22. We've been together for 2 years & have been having sex for almost 2 years. I am not the first girl he's slept with so it's not a "oh my god sex sex sex!!!" problem if you know what I mean.

Thank you!!
- ANSWER:
  You say you are both iffy about medicine but he should really use a numbing gel. They sell sprays in adult toy stores which the the active ingredient mainly is lidocain. If you want to go a cheaper rout then just buy some extra strength oral gel the kind used for babies teething or some tooth pain reliever liquid found in drug stores.
  
  It works, just let it sit for a few minutes, then apply the condom. Once you get going he will be able to last longer because his pleasure will be dulled allowing you to have longer lasting sex.
  
  This should give him the mentality and confidence that he can last longer and hopefully will not need to use it for long. After a while it becomes a a mental thing about getting nervous about coming too quick, which in turn causes him to come to quick.
QUESTION:
Definition of "The Bases" (sex)?
Trying to understand here as I've heard a few different definitions. My understanding"
First base - Open mouth kissing
Second base - Hands up shirt / Down pants
Thrid base - Oral Sex
Home Run - Intercourse
Grand Slam - Intercourse with mutual orgasm
Bunt - Premature ejaculation
Balk - Getting an unexpected extra base
Walk - A good night peck
RBI - Trying for a home run, but someone else gets it instead
Strike Out - Getting shot down
Grounder - Going really fast in hopes of getting to second base before you can be stopped.
Line Drive - Easily getting to second base
Fly Ball - Going for whatever you can get
The batters box - Masturbation

What do you think?
- ANSWER:
  AWESOME!!! sooo true! <3
QUESTION:
Masturbation questions? (update)?
Yes i asked a few questions a few minutes ago and im grateful for your answer.
however i thought some new questions while i got some answered

1. When im going to masturbate, semen like liquid starts to come out before i even orgasm. Its pre-cum right?
Is that bad or normal? I know Premature ejaculation isnt good and you can control it once you get more used to it. Is it like that? just dont get so excited.

2.Masturbating a lot will make less semen come out obviously. But does it affect how hard you get?
Ive been masturbating a lot and it seems as if my erections have been less hard. (maybe its just me?) If it does get softer, how long should you wait from masturbating until your back at your original hardness?

3. Masturbating helps you last longer during sex but it wont feel as good to you? Is this true?
How often should i masturbate then?

4.After i masturbate. I lose all interest in going more. I dont know how people can keep going for 2nd or 3rd in a row.
Is there a way to keep yourself hard? (tips/tricks maybe?)

5.After i masturbate and i clean up. little bit of semen still comes out randomly. Not a lot. Is this normal?

6.If you have any tips during sex to make you last longer. Please tell me too.

People say masturbate, then stop before you orgasm and do it again.
I try that and it doesnt seem to work. I get clsoe to orgasm, then i stop. The feeling goes away but once i look/ imagine/ watch the girl again and i start masturbating, it goes back to my orgasmic state i stopped at.
- ANSWER:
  1. pre cum is totally normal. it's not premature ejaculation... it happens so that it can help lubricate the penis during sex
  
  2. yes. if you stop masturbating for a while you will more than likely have a really hard erection the next time you masturbate
  
  3. it doesn't really help you last longer during sex. only if you reach the point of orgasm and control yourself from ejaculating.. if you train yourself to do this right you can stop yourself from ejaculating until you choose to do so
  
  4. there is no real reason to be able to go multiple times. it really depends on how horny you are... most guys lose that urge after they orgasm which is natural. it's not really a problem when it comes to sex because if you just focus on pleasing your partner in other ways for a short time you will get your erection back in like less than 30 minutes
  
  5. yes. totally.
  
  6. how long do you really need to go? most girls (myself included) aren't exactly impressed or thrilled when sex lasts over 30 minutes... it can start becoming tiring and make the girl sore. lasting too long is just as bad as not lasting long enough. typical sex can last between 5 to 30 minutes... if you can last 5 minutes you're on the right track.
QUESTION:
Does Foreskin restoration fix it for her too?
My girlfriend has been making me feel awful lately because when we make love, it often take an hour or more for her to have vaginal orgasms. We usually stop after we have each have one and hers is clitoral most of the time, which she deems unsatisfactory. I've never had any other partners, but I am her fourth, and apparent worst. She says it is because I am circumcised and that makes it feel worse for her and me. I feel so awful that I can't please her like that. I am also only 6 1/2 inches, so she resents my size as well. I know it is not cool, and I know it is not manly, but it makes me cry when she is not around. I love her so much and she hates my member. It hurts that I can not please her.
She says her other boyfriends (Two of which were from Italy and were uncut) could make her orgasm vaginally in less than ten minutes! Her other BF was quite large, so he had no problem either. I can't compete! She is getting so mad at me that she hits me and stuff. The other day she punched me in my testicles and I had to see a doctor (I am ok though). She joked that now I can't be husband/father material and that now she is going back to Italia to find a new lover (she was more vulgar, but you get the idea). I know she was joking, but it breaks my heart and I can tell she kind of considered it. She also joked about having an open relationship. I have been reading all this stuff about circumcision and restoration and now I really believe that I am just useless for sex, and it isn't because I am premature or something.
So my question is, will foreskin restoration return the advantages that she enjoyed of an uncut penis to mine? I am not concerned with my nerves, I want it to be good for her. I don't care if it damages me even more. Please, help me out, I don't want to lose my love and I am trying to find a solution. Thank you all for your time.
- ANSWER:
  Cut your losses and dump her now. It will only get worse the longer you are with her.
  
  If she is showing violence now while your dating, it will escalate the longer your with her.
QUESTION:
Am I Bipolar?Asking help from China ?
Due to the backward medical care and doctors of impatience in my country, I have to turn to you, and hope you could give me some opinions and consultation.

1 family heredity

（1）My mother has had manic bipolar disorder with psychotic symptoms (auditory & visual hallucination) since 1991. Now, her manic and psychotic symptoms have subsided with Lithium 500 mg, valproic acid 400 mg，and
risperidone 2 mg everyday. Currently, she is sleeping too much, and her mental ability, memory, and agility decline dramatically, unable to work, read and understand newspaper, making simple mistakes all the time. It seems that my mother is permanently "disabled" and there is no hope for her to recover.

My mother's younger sister has excitable and changeable mood, easy to make a angry fuss over dialy simple stuff. But she manages to work perfectly well.

(2) My father is easy to get angry and anxious as he is aging (I don't think there is anything wrong with him; his bad temper has a lot to do with family frustrations). And my father's mother got anxiety disorder (I am not so sure) during cu-l-tu-ral re-vo-lu-ti-on. Now she keeps worrying about my health and future.

2 My History

At the age 11, I suddenly felt the whole world was collapsing------that was typical depression (morning severe but at night felt better). With no medical intervention, it lasted 6 months and almost completely subsided, only I myself turned to be an introverted person with some sense of inferiority.

At the age 15, I felt the same again. Again, it lasted 8 months and gradually subsided, with residual minor symptoms like anxiety, and mild depression. Therefore, I sought psychiatristic help. That psychiatrist prescribed me fluoxetine. Taking it for 2 weeks, 20 mg/day, I felt very typical mild maniac symptoms (fast thinking, unusual excitement, need for less sleep, etc).

Then another psychiatrist diagnosed me as ultra rapid-cycling bipolar disorder (predominantly depression), and gave me low dosage of Lithium+carbamazepine+various antidepressants. And I took that combination for 2 years, but felt nothing at all , even no side effects. During that time, I felt as mild depressive as before, plus anxiety and very disturbing obsessive-compulsive thinking. With no effects at all, I decided to stop all medications.

Years went by, in 2005, I felt my memory declined and I couldn't focus for a long time, and the feeling of loneliness almost killed me. So I sought local psychiatristic help again. This time, I was prescribed with arbamazepine alone with no antidepressant, (800mg /day). Quite paradoxically and unexpectedly, I felt more agitation, anxiety, and anger than ever before. I could quarrel with my dear parents and threw precious items into pieces. Almost all the anti-maniac mood stabilizers (lithium, carbamazepine, valproic acid) seem to make me feel more “emotionally turbulent”

Now I am taking Lamotrigine (50MG/DAY), a mood stabilizer supposedly to work for the depressive symptoms. But I am feeling mental dullness, restlessness, and agitation. With addictive tranquilizes (like clonazepam), I could feel much better. I am trying to explain everything to local doctors, but they dismiss me as "somebody beyond redemption”， scolding me with impatience.

Other symptoms I am experiencing:loneliness, fatigue, lack of interest, erectile difficulty, premature ejaculation, and decreased orgasm.

3 I have some suspicions and questions:

(1) Is it a wrong diagnosis? Is it borderline personality disorder? But I clearly experienced mild maniac symptoms at the early stage. Every summer from 1998--2002, I got elevated mood mixed with mild depression. I even s-to-le things from stores and got a-rres-ted. But in the winter and fall, all goes down

(2) Why do anti-maniac mood-stablizing agents worsen my symptoms?
Taking any of them (lithium, carbamazepine, valproic acid), initially I was fuming with anger, agitation, and irritability. If those were the side effects, how long would them subside????

(3) Will a restart of a medication after short-term discontinuation worsen everything? Due to the discomfort felt, I had to discontinue mood-stablizing agents, and due to the unstable mood, I had to resume the old meds.

(4) How would I feel if taking mood-stablizing agents when I am unipolar depression or completely mentally normal??

Thank you very much for reading my long “complaints”, and I’ve lost hope for life now. Since no doctor in my country could offer any help any more, I count on you really! I am in such a dilemma, and I am eager to hear any of your suggestions! I have to overcome the current ordeal, and find a job to make a living and support my family! Thank you again for your kindly help and advice!

(Access to this website is not easily available, pls email me: qinggong165@tom.com or jiayunfei155@yahoo.com.cn )
- ANSWER:
  It sounds like you have the same symptoms as me - depression, obsessive-compulsive thinking, racing thoughts, anxiety.
  
  It sounds like you have Bipolar - but more depressive; along with anxiety and OCD (obsessive/compulsive)
  
  I have found that I need to "fight" for my life sometimes with doctors. The best medication that has helped me is - Abilify (an antidepressant that helps bipolar). I also take Luvox (OCD), Wellbuterin (depression) and Klonopin (anxiety).
  
  Each person reacts differently to the chemicals we put into our bodies which could explain why you have certain side effects.
  
  My doctor doesn't worry about diagnosis - but treats my SYMPTOMS. Sounds like you need similar treatment
  
  I am not certain how your body will react to different medications. For me, it has been 19 years of trial - until finding the best combination (listed above) but I am open to changes as recommended by the doctor. Again, Abilify has helped me the most; and Klonopin helps well with anxiety, but it kind of makes my thinking sluggish
QUESTION:
Will I ever find an understanding girl?
Im very depressed atm, and I realised there's no point sitting in my room feeling sorry for my self! So Iv started hitting the gym Iv lost 2 stone (around 30 pounds) I really feel good, I'm at 10.5 stone (around 150 pounds)

Anyway.. I have premature ejaculation, after 2 minutes I have to stop or I'll orgasm.
Iv never been with a girl because of this, Lost of meaning-less sex does not interest me, i just want a nice girl that I can pleasure , I'm worried if I really fall for a girl and we have sex and she doesn't get pleasure. Also I know people will say Aww a girl won't care, but they do. I'm sure girls want sex longer than 2 minutes every time. It's pathetic.

Iv tried strengthening my "pc" muscle (I'm sure that's the name) but it's no different I think I'll have to live with it. I'm 19.

Will I ever find a girl that wouldn't mind and would try and help me!

If not how can I deal with this! It worries me like hell if actually not approached many girls just incase!
- ANSWER:
  I can honestly say it wouldn't bother me.. I'm 18 btw,,, If I loved him it wouldn't matter to me.. we'd work through it together .. It could also be caused by stress.. the fact that you're over thinking it and stressing about it probably isn't helping the problem... there are a lot of girls out there (just like me) that would have an issue with this and would try and help if I was dating a gut with this problem.. I hope I helped ^_^
  
  anyone answer mine please?
  http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aqo.aQFkwHfy965klK8l3SIJ53NG;_ylv=3?qid=20120318160210AAaBUQr
QUESTION:
What can ease SSRI Withdrawal and PSSD?
I was put on a merry-go-round of antidepressants (including lexapro) when I was 13 and my family felt it was more likely that my brain was messed up than my life and growing body were. A few years later I told my doctor that I didn't want this anymore and I was ready to go back to a prescription-free existence.

Immediately after my Lexapro regimen was depleted, the Post SSRI sexual dysfunction kicked in. I began to experience rapid ejaculation with completely pleasureless orgasms. I was aware of this withdrawal problem but it persisted for over six months before I caved in on myself and went back to Lexapro. On doctor's advice, I started a half-dose of my old pills and the problem seemed half cured. Slightly premature ejaculations with slightly pleasureless orgasm.

A recent board told me I should switch to 5HTP instead, but won't that cause similar problems if I ever stop taking it? I'm a month clean of Lexapro again and I'm losing my mind in hopelessness. Is there ANYTHING I can do?
- ANSWER:
  the only way i knew to get off antidepressants was to just do it as slowly as i could...so i gave myself between 6 and 12 months to get off them so i didnt feel the horrible side affects too badly..i really do sympathize with you because it is a very hard thing to have to do and i know how you feel..if i were you i would go back to a normal dose until you are feeling better..then write out a plan ,..decrease the dosage very very slowly judging by how you feel dont go lower until your feeling ok..i used to break mine into 4 pieces until finaly i was happy enough just on a quarter...also i would skip a day then gradualy skip 2 then 3 until i was weaned off with out feeling like ending it all.... it takes courage and strength ..i really do with you both...get plenty off sleep and excersise ..eat well and take care
QUESTION:
is my penis oversensitive?
i feel like my penis is too sensitive. when i masturbate i usually can only last maybe 3 mins with porn or maybe 5 mins tops without it. i feel like that this isnt long enough. so will this translate to premature ejaculation once i do finally come across the right woman for me? right now im 18 and still a virgin (and sorta proud of it tyvm)....and im just hoping this doesnt hurt me down the road. anyway...i usually use either right or left hand (it rlly doesnt matter...and sometimes i switch a couple times in 1 session)....and usually i grip my penis in a normal manner with my index finger on the foreskin under the head on the back side and the other 3 fingers following downward and my thumb usually rests just under the foreskin or right on the edge on the top side. that grip i use with both hands. i've tried to just jerk the base and i last super long like that but its not solving the real issue (one time i jerked the base for like 2 hrs straight while watching porn and when i hit orgasm i hit it so hard that my calf muscle in the back of my leg got a super tight cramp because the my muscles tensed up so much from it). i've also tried the stop-start technique and i dont think that really solves anything. i mean really....you stop...wait 30 seconds to a minute....then u start again and when u do u can only go for like half the time then u have to stop again. its just for building up orgasm instead of acutally increasing stamina or anything. i have also tried kegel exercises a few times (im just gonna be up front about this....im too lazy to do that every single day 3+ times a day with results not coming in for 3+ months). so is there any way to naturally increase my stamina without taking any kinda pills or using any kind of creme or anything? and will this stamina i have right now translate into premature ejaculation once i do finally get into sex?
- ANSWER:
  Wow,...it sounds like you are worrying for nothing. Everything you say seems normal and healthy.
  You are 18, and at the height of your sexual energy. Many guys cannot last longer that a minute or so when they are that age, so you are doing well.
  Keep doing what you are doing, and you will be fine.
  Good luck with this
  Mithras
QUESTION:
Whenever I get an erection, I leak alittle come! Why?
It's been 2 weeks since I quit masturbation, but whenever I get turned on and errect, I may leak alittle sperm, after a few mins, I wouldn't call it premature ejaculation, because it's no orgasm, jus a drop or a dot comes out, I need to fast and stop this if I am to continue my life religiously. How do I stop this, getting turned on is inevitable!!
Ps: I'm not watching porn!
- ANSWER:
QUESTION:
If I stop masturbating, will I be able to last longer?
What I've been told is that you can get premature ejaculation from masturbating too much and too fast. They say that you "learn" premature ejaculation, and that when you masturbate and go really fast just to achieve an orgasm, so basically a quick little thing, that trains your penis to ejaculate quick, and it gets used to it. So now when I went to have sex, I only lasted about two minutes or so. So if I stop masturbating for a long time, will I be able to last longer? Or should I try something like masturbating, but not going quick, and going at a decent speed to get myself used to lasting longer.

Thanks in advance!
- ANSWER:
  no its all in the mind
  u can start stop and go and control ejaculation by delaying in/out
  also u know what premature means===
  ejaculation before you enter the vagina
  and even if u can last a stroke inside the vagina
  its not premature u have delivered the sperms needed for kids formation
  sex has become more fun now a days hence longer lasting desire
  
  FOREPLAY IS THE ANSWER AND MSBT BEFORE SEXING WITH A GAL helps delay in second time ejaculation hope this helps
QUESTION:
PLEASE please Help me. I Can't Stop Thinking Really Bad thoughts... Help..?
I am 16 cannot stop thinking the worst. anywhere i go its always my imagination taking over and imagining the worst. plse read and help...

i get pedophiliac fantasies which are f.cking horrible.. i cant help having them they just take over, there part of my f.cked up thoughts that youlle read about later on.. and its just like why the f.ck would i think that, and then i feel like i like them because i thought it, and i feel like something is going to take over and i'm going to carry out one of them when i clearly won't. i am gay and i can't accept it because i think that it is really weird. the f.cked up thoughts, there mostly about premature teens which is f.cking sick and it makes me think. is it me that thinks there sick or is it just me liking it and knowing its wrong at the same time based on societies views..i think pedophiles are complete animals and need to die... (but then i think is that me thinking that they need to die or is it based on societies opinions on it and that i like it really) i have sexual fantasies about 15 yo boys and i'm only 16 and i feel like. if i like someone thats younger than me will it always stick with me. like when i'm 25 for example. i feel like will i still like 15yo boys. and this all is fuelled from my ''f.cked up cycle'' if i was to have a sexual fantasy about a 15yo boy and then masturbate over it. i would feel fine before the orgasm. but its after i feel like. why the f.ck did i think that about someone in there early 15 age when i am almost 17. i feel really sick with hatred to myself and i feel suicidal and that i should be locked away and kept away from society in a padded room. i sometimes drink to comfort my thoughts because it makes me not give a **** about myself because i feel like these f.cked up thoughts are ME. i also feel like i am losing touch of reality and everything around me isn't real.

and i get horrible thoughts about killing people and the ways that i would do it..i have these f,cked up thoughts all the time and they literally torture me inside out.. for example

i was round a friends which all i love dearly.. and then when we are having a good time and then i looked up at a wooden beam in there house and then i imagined taking all the members of the family and hanging them on a meathook and skinning them whilst alive... and when i imagine it i hear all the sounds and suffering.. so to give you an idea.... i cut around there ankles with a sharp knife and then i pull the skin inside up and i start skinning them up to there head and i can hear them screaming in my ears (even when i write this) and the sound of there skin coming off like packaging tape when you pull it out and it makes that noise.. and then i can see them in my imagination skinned up to there shoulders with all there muscle hanging out and them shaking on the meat hook under shock and them screaming under their own skin suffocating them. and then i feel like something is going to take over me and possess me to do it..

another example... slitting my own mothers throat in her sleep. and all the blood pouring out everywhere and her gurgling with her screams under her own blood. its f.cking horrible and i hear the sounds now as i write to you or read this.. and i literally see it with my eyes open and it tortures me inside.. i have to deal with thoughts like these every single day..

there always the most f.cked up things i could think and i can't help thinking them they just interrupt my life and i lose control of my thoughts. and then i have my sexuality which always plays up on me.. i always have normal sexual feelings like me watching gay porn i feel aroused by it and fine with it like i'm ok with my sexuality now and then after the orgasm i feel like.. why the frick was i watching that thats really really sick and people will think awful things if they caught me watching that... its always just the most negative things people could do that i imagine me doing.. this is mild thoughts of when i am at the dinner table and i think what if i told this lovely person that there f.cking ugly and i beated them in the face or that i told my friends black dad that he was a ****** and the food he cooked tasted like ****. when it did'nt.

i just feel really ashamed depressed and feel like i need to die to end these thoughts (and then i feel like i am really really pathetic to think these thoughts when people are getting butchered in africa)

i think it is all fuelled from weed because i used to smoked it 3 years ago and i stopped because it gave me night terrors and anxiety and hellish hallucinations and unexplainable feelings of horror and randomness. it basically f.cked me up one night when i smoked it and i could'nt speak to people for a month or go to school becuase there voices sounded fake and scary...... i could go detail but this is becoming really long text now

but yeah i feel like i have something to hide
- ANSWER:
  ok its not the weed its OCD i have it to but i think of DEATH,PROSTITUTION and RAPE i cant help it either your not a pedophile your hormones aren't developed fully so you see younger guys as your type you cant help it its your mind. how old are you? Being gay is not wrong at all you cant help it your mothers hormones leaked to you and you cant help it iw you really don't want to be gay go to camp for it (i don't suggest it though) i watch gay porn and im a girl i like it better than Straight porn and im straight. they have OCD clinics for your thoughts don't go to one because i am to young to tell my mother "hey mom i uncontrollable think about prostitution and rape take me to a clinic" but you get the point

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